Resilience is the ability to bounce back from challenges – whether that’s a tough day at school, a friendship issue or a knock to their confidence. While some children seem naturally resilient, it’s a skill that can be nurtured over time. As a parent, you play a vital role in helping your child build the emotional tools they need to cope with life’s ups and downs. Here are some simple ways to support their resilience, inspired by the teachings of this London prep school.
Encourage a Growth Mindset
A growth mindset teaches children that effort and learning are more important than always getting things right. Praise your child for trying hard rather than being ‘clever’. For example, if they struggle with a maths problem, say: “I love how you kept trying – let’s work through it together” instead of “Don’t worry, you’re just not good at maths.”
This way, they learn that setbacks aren’t failures – they’re part of the learning journey.
Model Resilient Behaviour
Children take cues from how we handle difficulties. If they see you managing stress, asking for help, or calmly facing a problem, they’re more likely to do the same. Try speaking out loud when problem-solving – for instance, “This is tricky, but I know I can work it out if I take it step by step.”
Showing that it’s OK to struggle sometimes – and that it doesn’t mean giving up – sets a powerful example.
Build Strong Routines
Daily routines help children feel safe and secure, especially when things around them feel uncertain. Consistent mealtimes, bedtimes and time for homework or relaxation give them a sense of stability. While flexibility is important too, having some predictable parts of the day can give them confidence to face unexpected events.
Let Them Make Mistakes
It’s tempting to step in when your child is upset or frustrated, but allowing them to work through challenges on their own helps them develop important coping skills. If your child forgets their PE kit or falls out with a friend, support them by listening and encouraging them to think through what to do next, rather than solving it for them.
This builds confidence and teaches problem-solving skills they’ll use again and again.
Celebrate Effort, Not Just Success
Help your child recognise that progress matters more than perfection. Celebrate the small wins – whether it’s speaking up in class, joining a new club, or getting back on the bike after falling off. When you focus on effort, bravery and perseverance, you reinforce the idea that they are capable of handling challenges.
Encourage Healthy Risk-Taking
Resilient children are willing to step outside their comfort zones. Support your child in trying new things – joining a sports team, auditioning for a school play, or even standing up for a friend. These moments, while sometimes nerve-wracking, help children learn what they’re capable of.
Resilience isn’t about always being strong – it’s about learning how to navigate emotions, recover from setbacks and grow through challenges. With your encouragement and support, your child can develop a strong foundation that will serve them throughout their life.
